tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post1485943784454279286..comments2023-10-20T15:06:46.493+01:00Comments on A Changing Life: StormA.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04709794851766685322noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-47035134498279680032007-07-02T08:25:00.000+01:002007-07-02T08:25:00.000+01:00Thank you Cornélie! That's really kind you know. ...Thank you Cornélie! That's really kind you know. All these little words give balm to my soul and stop me brooding ad vitam aeternam.<BR/><BR/>You are right Hélène, it's better today. You couldn't say I've reached serenity, but it's good that things have lightened up a bit. It's interesting you mentioned young adults and the anger they work through. I never had that adolescent crisis and I'm Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-1220045962038900582007-07-02T07:42:00.000+01:002007-07-02T07:42:00.000+01:00I am a little late commenting and I hope things ar...I am a little late commenting and I hope things are going better!<BR/>In a family there are always irritations, there is manipulation, one speaking to another about things which he daren't say to the one he should be talking to ... And then there are months, years, even tens of years of things said which should never have been said. And if she is lying to you it's possibly simply from ... I wasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-43308807130188530712007-07-01T20:44:00.000+01:002007-07-01T20:44:00.000+01:00Good luck!! You can't always be an optimist, ther...Good luck!! You can't always be an optimist, there are some moments of being fed up, and in your case completely justified and understandable!! But by the time you read this comment it will already be a bit better... at least i hope so ;o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-22519746023353356862007-07-01T20:38:00.000+01:002007-07-01T20:38:00.000+01:00Courage Papillon, your morale will improve, you're...Courage Papillon, your morale will improve, you're just having a bad patch, I think it would have been surprising if you didn't have anything like that going through what you have.<BR/><BR/>It's amazing that you are able to write all this in such a way, so simple and so modest and elegant at the same time. You impress my a lot.<BR/><BR/>You seem a fairly unusual young woman, I really want to sayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-88553488513354279312007-07-01T20:27:00.000+01:002007-07-01T20:27:00.000+01:00Take good care of yourself Papillon..Put all the "...Take good care of yourself Papillon..<BR/>Put all the "pseudo comics" behind you, there are real people who think of you and hope you are happy...<BR/>Have a good weekend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-68147480522353516252007-07-01T20:24:00.000+01:002007-07-01T20:24:00.000+01:00Above all, I really want to thank you from the bot...Above all, I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support.<BR/><BR/>A loooong yell? I'm up for that Fyfe, I feel it would do me good!<BR/><BR/>Elté Reblogged, my impatience with regard to the healing is linked to the blow to my morale which I've just had. Why did my mother lie? It's really THE question of the moment. I can't understand what's going on in her head. I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-56402770170556975242007-07-01T16:16:00.000+01:002007-07-01T16:16:00.000+01:00Hello PapillonIn all children there is this absolu...Hello Papillon<BR/>In all children there is this absolute belief that their nother can "read" them, that she knows all their fears and sadness... but even the most attentive parent can miss an unexpressed "cry for help"...<BR/>It seems to me that you also have some questions for Dr Foldès! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-27702077725398524322007-06-30T23:31:00.000+01:002007-06-30T23:31:00.000+01:00Hello PapillonI sympathise.About your parents, and...Hello Papillon<BR/><BR/>I sympathise.<BR/><BR/>About your parents, and especially your mother, far be it from me to tell you to love them in spite of everything and against everything. Love can't come by order or be forced.<BR/><BR/>Simply, anger and rage will change nothing in your mother's personality. The fact of having integrated corrupt values, and the fact of lying to hide her stupidity Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-63510728466081817292007-06-30T14:28:00.000+01:002007-06-30T14:28:00.000+01:00Hard to come on the internet at the moment as the ...Hard to come on the internet at the moment as the days are too short!<BR/>But I haven't forgotten you and I think of you very often.<BR/>Courage, it's healing, it's healing!<BR/>For the rest, you don't need me to tell you that stirs up some memories for me, questions about how I reacted to my parents.<BR/>But I am too cowardly and at the same time I really have the impression of haivng turned theAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-58628810632164911772007-06-29T16:53:00.000+01:002007-06-29T16:53:00.000+01:00Hi Papillon!First, be patient, something that need...Hi Papillon!<BR/><BR/>First, be patient, something that needs time to be undone, also needs time to be reconstructed. When you think about it, it's, what, 5 weeks compared with all the past years?<BR/><BR/>Nevertheless I understand your irritation and impatience. I think especially that everything is accentuated by the fact that you have the feeling that nothing around has moved on, your parentsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-46543330464109217062007-06-29T16:37:00.000+01:002007-06-29T16:37:00.000+01:00Hi! It's a while since I left any trace of my pas...Hi! It's a while since I left any trace of my passing though here, but I do read, and even though telepathy isn't infallible, I think a lot about you.<BR/>Reading your post, many remarks come into my mind... In no particular order: <BR/>- your relationship with your father has always been "reserved", according to what you have said. The day when you spoke about him you said that he had always Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-16682058541606730972007-06-29T16:05:00.000+01:002007-06-29T16:05:00.000+01:00Courage!Imagine yourself in a few months, this per...Courage!<BR/>Imagine yourself in a few months, this period of healing will be long gone, you will have recovered, that's sure, they told you the operation went really well, so be patient a little longer.<BR/>But good grief, why did your mother lie to you? Tell her you know your father's and your sister's version. I'm angry for you!<BR/><BR/>Right, that'll do, but I repeat, keep cool for healingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-24023787118009841592007-06-29T15:56:00.000+01:002007-06-29T15:56:00.000+01:00Dear PapillonThere are days like that when everyth...Dear Papillon<BR/><BR/>There are days like that when everything seems to be falling apart. But just reading what you say I know you have enough character to get over these moments (what's more you have the support of your man).<BR/><BR/>If I can allow my self to give some advice, it's to try not to focus on the guilty party(ies), the harm they have done to you, say to yourself that a new life isAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-8559177489274250092007-06-29T15:40:00.000+01:002007-06-29T15:40:00.000+01:00Hello Papillonif your anger had a colour, which wo...Hello Papillon<BR/>if your anger had a colour, which would it be?<BR/>if it were a sound or a noise, what would it resemble?<BR/>a smell?<BR/>a taste?<BR/>Speak to you soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-63586798432008632402007-06-29T15:38:00.000+01:002007-06-29T15:38:00.000+01:00Just reading what you said, I'm angry with you! D...Just reading what you said, I'm angry with you! Do you want us to shout together very, very loud so that all the negative energy comes out?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-19181157194927171582007-06-25T22:25:00.000+01:002007-06-25T22:25:00.000+01:00I agree. Don't keep returning to the painful past,...I agree. Don't keep returning to the painful past, and things that cannot be undone. I could be angry with my parents for things, but it won't undo anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995313306997352940.post-80714284225846489722007-06-22T15:27:00.000+01:002007-06-22T15:27:00.000+01:00Please do not let yourself turn what should be a l...Please do not let yourself turn what should be a life affirming event into something else. In the end, how your parents react and what they say now, or what they did to you then and why they did it doesn't really matter. It won't change what was done to you and it can't take away what you have done for yourself.<BR/><BR/>Your courage is an inspiration to many so don't despair. Your future is whatLapis Ruberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00595337806139537467noreply@blogger.com